As a musical theatre performer, I deal with rejection on a daily
basis. Rejection is a part of my day to day life, you could say rejection is a
close friend to me, I see him often, sometimes when I don't want to see him and
sometimes I welcome him in with open arms (strange I know).
Rejection is a part of my job
Now rejection is a part of my job and that’s something I’ve had to
get used too. I go to auditions for big west end shows weekly and will give it
everything in a routine, my body dripping with sweat and extremely fatigued.
Fighting against another 30 boys in the room for maybe one job, to be told
“Thanks, that’s all we need for today”. It’s tough.
Going on to a personal level, I have felt rejection from
relationships that broke me so much it changed my view of life and how I saw
the world which is pretty intense, sometimes the world can be a dark place and
when you find that, that one special person also doesn’t want you… its
damaging.
I am a proud man of faith and hold it close to my heart but even
in a place I call safe it has shown rejection. Being a gay man and a man of faith
isn’t exactly idealistic in the eyes of the church and with many evangelists
around the world proclaiming that all gays will burn in the flames of hell,
well, you could say that’s a slap of rejection from a community that claim to
love and accept all. This is not to say I feel rejection from God/Christ
himself this is a strict view on some of the community members of some churches
worldwide.
Let’s get real here
So, after venting my guts up about my previous rejections. I want
to make one thing clear…
The definition of Rejection according to Google is:
"the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc.”
The idea of dismissing an idea or closing a door as such has
always taught me that ( and I know its super cliché ) when one door closes
another door opens. I have found that rejection not only has made my skin so
tough that a spear couldn’t break through these dragons’ scales but that I am
ready to face my next challenge in this world and can feel myself become
stronger and stronger each day.
Rejection isn't a closing of an opportunity and I can tell you right
now, hand on heart… each rejection has a lesson, a new opportunity or a gift to
be given. It is not the end, it is never the end. It’s the beginning of
something.
Going back to each of my previous vents… here is the outcome of
each of those rejections..
- I
was rejected from a UK Tour of my dream musical show because I was told I
was “Too Skinny” - I am now in the best shape possible and have just
finished being a part of the Original Cast of Hairspray for Royal
Caribbean.
- I
was rejected from a partner who told me “I was too emotional and dramatic” - I am now
talking to a decent person who accepts my over thinking and have good
hopes for the future.
- A
Christian couple told me that I must renounce my homosexuality to be
closer to God - I am now learning so much about God and my faith that I
can accept myself without feeling condemned by the words of imperfect
people.
Everyone is scientifically,
individually, emotionally and physically unique
These are just a few examples of how rejection has an opportunity for great things in my life and I urge you to keep pushing through the “No’s”. Everyone is scientifically, individually, emotionally and physically unique and we are given these opportunities each day, take each opportunity, don’t live in fear of failure. Failure is a necessary tool and a mandatory requirement for strength and success.
Push through, Be kind to others and Be
kind to yourself.
By Anonymous
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